What we need

Relationships take effort. A relationships that is going to be long-lasting is going to need tending to, attention and effort. It won't just happen on its own.

When our relationship was new, it was very exciting. Everything we did with each other was a new experience, and was exhilarating! Just taking a walk, or maybe even going to the movies was exciting and fun. However, as times goes by, these things that once seemed fun now seems "old," or "boring."

Both of us need to work on finding ways to keep our love and romance new and exciting. It's normal for a relationship to have a "low" period (like what we are having now, I think) but it's important that we both know this is just a phase that will pass. It's even more important to know that we both need to put in effort to feel close again.

You need time to be alone, and I can understand that. I don't think it was fair for you to treat me that way last night (getting angry at me but not telling why, not even wanting to look at me) I know you were not well, that's partly why I did not want to pick a fight (I was really fuming inside). I also knew that it would be pointless to show my discontent at that time. So I went home.

We used to lie in bed and chat till one of us fell asleep. We would read LOTR to each other. We would hold hands when we walk. We would hold hands at the movies. We kissed all the time. We made breakfast together on Sundays. You would make breakfast for me. We would go out to take pictures with our cameras. We washed the car together.

These are special to me. You are special to me. It will take effort on both of us to make each other feel special. I may be a very low-maintenance girlfriend to have, but honestly, it's only in the material areas. You don't need to romance me with expensive gifts or take me to classy restuarants to impress me or pay for my shopping. What I need for you is what I cannot buy nor give to myself...and that is affection, attention and love. I need physical pampering (touches, hugs, etc)

We love each other...and we need to show each other that we love each other. Let's not fall into the "take-each-other-for-granted" pit? Let's not assume that whatever we are giving to each other now is the 100% right formula to make each other feel loved...Maybe it was the right thing to do for each other then, but our relationship grows and changes along with time and we should not stick to "what used to work" but rather, "What works best now".

I want to start doing new things. We should start a hobby/activity together. How about cycling? We've been talking about it for ages but have yet to get down to getting a suitable bike for you. I think our weekends are just too "dull" because we do almost the same thing every weekend. You should take up a new hobby, learn painting or a new language...whatever. I should seriously start my driving lessons on weekday nights.

Our lives get too mundane because we take every single activity for granted. The daily routine gets too routined and therefore so dead. I think we should find something to do on our own, and something to do together on weekends.

I love you. I'm not sure if what I'm blogging here makes any sense or not, but the bottomline of everything is, I love you and I cherish us...alot. Things around us may change, people come and go in our lives, but at the end of the day, it's still you that I love.

So...how about doing something new? Some cycling/beach/outdoor stuff on weekends may do some good...we need the sun and exercise! But no hurry ok...I don't mean that we dive straight into things immediately...take your time, and tell me how you feel about it baby..